Someone told me that they've learned more about how to communicate with someone you're intimately involved with in one month than they have their entire life, and it honestly made me feel so good. I'm finally understanding what I need. To hear that I can also spread that message to guys I'm involving myself with is even better. Sex and hooking up isn't all just physical, no matter how much either party may want it to be. There will most likely always be other aspects involved, even if you never talk to them again. The thing to realize is that you need to communicate that to people. If you go into something telling people what you want out of this then there's just so much less confusion. If someone made you feel like complete shit, there's a chance they don't even know it- tell them. Being open with someone you're involved with in whatever way makes things SO much better! I just want to help other people realize this in any way that I can because it took me so long to understand, and if I knew it all much earlier on I would have saved myself so much pain.